Unapologetic Parenting

Life isn’t always easy. Sometimes, even the strongest people amongst us need a little bit of help to work through some of life’s more challenging problems. Everyone has battles to fight and hurdles to overcome at some point. Whether you struggle with an uncooperative ex, coparenting problems, divorce guilt, undesirable child-behavior or any other issue, you should know that there is hope for a better tomorrow.

The Parallel Parenting Solution: Eliminate Confict With Your Ex, Create The Life You Want

Paperback – June 26 2021

by Carl Knickerbocker JD

The Parallel Parenting Solution was written for people who want to eliminate the unnecessary drama of Coparenting with a high-conflict ex—particularly in the wake of a hard-fought divorce battle. Coparenting does not have to take a toll on mental health, deplete your finances, compromise your values, or threaten your safety. For those experiencing the effects of Trendy-Trendy Coparenting as a living hell, your experience is valid. We’ve been there and lived it. But have no fear.

There is hope, and it’s called Parallel Parenting. It’s based on the premise that all parties can achieve the highest outcomes for themselves and their families when they are free to work in parallel, rather than being thrown into the chaotic emotional enmeshment soup that is Trendy-Trendy Coparenting. Understanding the exploitative and conflict-producing fantasy known as Trendy-Trendy Coparenting as sold to us by the divorce industry vultures is as important as understanding the down-to-earth tactics of how to deal with your high-conflict ex. This book will teach you both.

Parallel Parenting After Divorce

Making co-parenting work in high-conflict families.

Posted September 1, 2013

By Edward Kruk Ph.D.

Parallel parenting is an arrangement in which divorced parents are able to co-parent by means of disengaging from each other, and having limited direct contact, in situations where they have demonstrated that they are unable to communicate with each other in a respectful manner.

For intractable high-conflict families, parallel parenting provides an opportunity for co-parenting, and although parents remain disengaged from each other, they remain fully connected to their children.

Co-Parenting With a Narcissist: The Impossible Dream

Sharing custody with a narcissist is a challenging, frustrating struggle.

Posted July 26, 2021

By Kristy Lee Hochenberger Ph.D.

Co-parenting with a narcissist is impossible. At best, one can adopt a method of parallel parenting with strict boundaries and legal protection. A narcissist craves total control of a situation that keeps them calling the shots and setting the standards. What are the signs of co-parenting with a narcissist, and can the situation be salvaged?

Parallel Parenting

By Daphna Schwartz

Hi, my name is Daphna Schwartz and I am a lawyer with Feldstein Family Law Group. Today I am going to talk to you about Parallel Parenting.

Parallel parenting is a form of joint custody, meaning joint decision making for parents on major issues, such as health, education and religion for their child or children. Instead of each parent sharing decision-making for their child in every domain as in a traditional joint custody arrangement, in a parallel parenting regime, parents assume full decision-making responsibility in different domains. For example, one parent will be solely responsible for all medical and religious decisions concerning the child, while the other parent is solely responsible for all decisions concerning the child’s education and extracurricular activities.

What Is Parallel Parenting?

By WebMD Editorial Contributors

Reviewed by Dan Brennan, MD on June 28, 2021

After a high-conflict divorce or separation, it can be hard for parents to get along with each other enough to co-parent their children. But research has shown that children do best when their divorced parents share custody. It's important for both parents to be involved in their children's lives, even if they don't want to be involved with each other.

One way to do this is through parallel parenting. Parallel parenting is a method of shared parenting in which parents interact as little as possible with each other while maintaining their relationships with their children.

Parallel Parenting With a Narcissist

Co-parenting is the ideal approach for the children in most cases

September 14, 2020 by Monique Mason

Developing a parenting arrangement after separation or divorce is hard. As many parents know, underlying mental health issues can complicate the situation even further. One of the most common factors in a high-conflict separation or divorce is Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance and a lack of empathy, NPD and other high-conflict personalities can make family restructuring an arduous task.

Whether your co-parent has been formally diagnosed with NPD or is simply exhibiting typical behaviors, it is critical to consider their personality in your parenting arrangement. Read on to learn parallel parenting strategies for dealing with a narcissistic co-parent.

Custody – Parallel Parenting

By J. N. Mukongolo

The two most common forms of parenting orders are sole custody where one parent makes all major decisions relating to the children or joint custody where both parents make decisions jointly. The other form is split custody where each parent makes all major decision with the respect child or children in his or her primary care.

In recent years, courts have made orders for shared custody where both parents parent the children equally with respect to time sharing and decision making. The other form of parenting that is emerging that is suitable in high conflict cases is parallel parenting.

Parallel Parenting With A Narcissist

By Joleena Louis, Esq.

Co-parenting, in general, can be difficult, but there are special considerations when the other parent is a narcissist. In most cases, co-parenting is not practical and can be harmful to all involved. A better option is parallel parenting.

Forget Co-Parenting With a Narcissist, Round 2

Your home, your rules: Thriving in spite of a high-conflict divorce

Posted May 22, 2017 by Linda Esposito LCSW

Not to put all the blame the family court system, but judges, attorneys, mediators, and custody evaluators could benefit from internalizing this message: Co-parenting with a narcissist does not exist. My advice to co-parents is to raise your children in your home and do not meddle with your ex (suspected abuse excepted). As a psychotherapist specializing in co-parenting post-high-conflict divorce, I assure you that you are not alone. “Forget Co-Parenting…” is read 700-plus times daily. That’s a lot of stressed-out, single parents.

Parallel Parenting Plans

Save Time & Avoid Costs

In a joint custody arrangement, parents make decisions together on major matters such as; religion, health, extracurricular activities, and education.

In a Parallel Parenting Plan, instead of both parents having to agree on the major matters listed above, each parent resumes full responsibility on different major decisions. As an example, Mom may have decision making responsibility over education and health matters, while Dad may have decision making responsibility over religious matters and extracurricular activities.

Parallel Parenting with a Narcissist

Pathways Team August 28, 2020

Developing a parenting arrangement after separation or divorce is hard. As many parents know, underlying mental health issues can complicate the situation even further. One of the most common factors in a high-conflict separation or divorce is Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance and a lack of empathy, NPD and other high-conflict personalities can make family restructuring an arduous task.

Whether your co-parent has been formally diagnosed with NPD or is simply exhibiting typical behaviors, it is critical to consider their personality in your parenting arrangement. Read on to learn parallel parenting strategies for dealing with a narcissistic co-parent.

Parallel Parenting – The Evolutionary Way To Co-Parent With A Narcissist

By Melanie Tonia Evans

If you are currently co-parenting with a narcissist, my heart goes out to you.

I read countless stories every day from people in this community who are experiencing the daily frustrations, twist and turns, insanity and gut-wrenching nastiness that goes with trying to co-parent with a narcissist.

Communication in a Parallel Parenting Arrangement

Our Family Wizard blog

For parents, it's often essential to maintain some form of communication for the sake of their children. But when the situation is high-conflict or even volatile, sharing information and reaching agreements regarding the children can feel near to impossible to do without third-party intervention.

In this case, parallel parenting may be a positive strategy for parents to consider putting into practice. In a parallel parenting agreement, co-parenting can take place at the same time that parents have little direct contact with each other.

Co-Parenting or Parallel Parenting: How to Know What's Right

Find your sweet spot on the post-divorce parenting continuum.

Posted December 9, 2020 by Ann Gold Buscho Ph.D.

Parallel parenting is the complete opposite. There’s a firewall between you and your ex. You rarely communicate, and your kids live in two parallel households. Parents do this when they feel that one is too controlling or intrusive, or when they want complete independence from the other parent for emotional reasons. If a parent is triggered at the mention of the other parent, they probably will want to do parallel parenting. If this is what you need to do to minimize or end the conflict between you, it’s not necessarily a bad thing. It protects your kids from the damaging effects of your continuing conflict. There may be many reasons for the divorce, and parenting differences may be one of them.

Parenting After Separation for Families in High ConflictParent’s Guide

Section 5

Parallel Parenting Plans

-Boundaries are documented in a parenting plan

-Parallel parenting plans help reduce conflict between parents

-Parallel parenting plans need to be detailed around areas of conflict and developed specifically for the family

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